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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - but what about the job situation? Do you think it would be a bad idea to take the job on his team if offered?

You don't think we can just be friends?[/quote]

Think about it this way, OP.

If you get this job because you flirted with and got emotionally involved with this man, you will end up in a situation where you are flirting with and emotionally involved with your boss. If you care about him at all, know that he can get fired for that. If you care about your reputation at all, know that other people will know how you ended up there and will not take you seriously professionally.[/quote]

Ok, I hear you. But how do you think other people would find out how I got the job? And also, we had spoke about this position before things got to where they are now with us. So its not like it was ever "dangled" or has anything to do with why I like him. Things progressed kind of on their own because we're involved in a lot of the same activities at work and run into each other a lot. And then we're both also into the same hobby, so we would talk a lot about that. I don't think either one of us set out to be where we are now.[/quote]

People aren’t stupid.  Everyone sees you flirting with him and they already are probably talking about you. They will assume he hired you because of your relationship.   You don’t sound like the sharpest knife in the drawer so I doubt you can manage to be discreet.  You probably need to move on to another job ASAP and try to be more professional next time..[/quote]

I don't know what image you have in your mind of me "flirting" with him but I am always professional at work. People see us talking, but so what. I work in a company that's very big on personal relationships and plenty of people have their work BFF. [/quote]

LOL my image of you is of someone stupid enough to have an affair with someone who could become her boss because she feels “vulnerable.”  But don’t take my word for it, all the other posters here also think you are being very stupid.  It’s rare to see such a firm consensus.[/quote]

I'm sure my thinking is stupid but I just want to clarify nothing has actually happened between us. We've never hung out outside or work or even have each others numbers.[/quote]

Who cares?  Everyone at work knows something is up.  I work in a very collegial atmosphere and no one is “bff” with a married colleague of the opposite gender.  That is not a thing.  All of your coworkers are talking about you and as a contractor, you are especially disposable.  No one likes a workplace full of drama prone unprofessional people.[/quote]

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