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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So many selfish, pathetic women on this thread. As somebody's kid, it's nice to know that I'm only here to fill some void in my mother's life because she couldn't find anything meaningful to do. Maybe that's why the rest of life seems "trivial" to you... You never actually tried.[/quote]

She despises you daily.

In all seriousness, people without kids don’t know.  I certainly didn’t.  I could have gone on having a great life.  I’m fact, we said of it didn’t happen naturally we would not adopt or do fertility treatments. It happened and yes, I can imagine my life without my two kids, but now I know how much I would have missed and I am thankful I took the leap.  I love them to pieces and watching my parents love for them and their close bond with my kids made my heart grow another 20 sizes.

My cousin married a woman late 30s that was adamant about not wanting kids.  She’s 45 and still adamant.  She is one of my absolute favorite people.  She loves her life.  She loves my kids.  She has helped throw their bday parties, etc and I didn’t have to ask.  She loves them now as teens.  I get it.  My brother not only didn’t want kids.  He also never wanted to get married.  He’s 51 and loves his life.  He’s had many different girlfriends and now lives with one bit they have no plans for marriage.

Here’s the thing.  My family never asked why after 7 years of marriage we didn’t have kids.  They were adamant about no pressure.  So when we told them I was pregnant at 34, everyone was shocked.  It was kind of funny.  They assumed we had fertility issues or were never going to have them.

I’m not for people grabbing a partner to marry just because of a biological clock and popping out a kid 9 months after the wedding.  I’ve seen the misery that comes with that.

Do what you want to do.  Freeze your eggs, don’t have kids, get pets, have 25 kids.  It’s your life.  Nothing good ever came out of doing something out of obligation or societal pressure.

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