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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Back when I was in the infertility trenches (come to think of it, I still am — it sticks with you and you carry the scars even after a successful pregnancy) I used to joke that if someone told me that slathering myself in honey and jumping into a fire ant hill would have gotten me pregnant, I would have been like “does it matter what brand of honey and how much?” I would have moved heaven and earth to become a mom and the journey ultimately wasn’t easy. We had every type of test under the sun (still unexplained), multiple IUIs, ivf, acupuncture, Mayan massage, surgery, the meds even gave me a cancer scare. My savings and sanity were tapped out. But it worked. And after a hard pregnancy and a God-awful delivery, he is sleeping next to me and i’v Never been more grateful for anything in my life. If you’re asking a bunch of strangers on dcum, this leads me to believe that you’re not completely at peace with the decision not to pursue treatment. I can’t tell you what to do, because this issue is so intensely personal, so instead I wish you contentment and luck  in whatever choice you make. Good luck![/quote]

out of curiosity, if it didn't work, how might have you felt? i do think hindsight is 20/20. for those who are successful, of course everything seems worth it. for those who are not, it might seem like "why did I waste all this time, money and sanity..."[/quote]

Had it not worked, I would have been completely heartbroken, devastated, angry, sad (just thinking about it makes me want to cry.) But at least I wouldn't be living with the regret of "Maybe, if I had just tried this one more thing, it might have worked." If you try and it doesn't work out, you'll be devastated. If you don't try and it doesn't work out, you'll be devastated. At least this way you'll know you've given it your everything.

Again, I realize this is intensely personal stuff and people might feel differently -- everyone grieves in different ways and approaches this process with their own limitations (that's leaving aside the fact that in this country ART is a rich persons' game, so that choice is taken away altogether from A LOT of people...) Only you can decide how far you're willing to push your body, your marriage, your finances, with no guarantee of success.There's no one "right answer" with anything, when it comes to infertility. For example, I know of someone that was finally successful on their 9th retrieval and I'm not sure I would have had it in me to push quite this far. [/quote]

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