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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a Jewish man married to a Jewish woman. We have a Jewish home- think regular synagogue attendance, celebrating (but not strictly observing) Shabbat, etc.. However, my wife's family has many non Jews, including her mother.

Her non Jewish family celebrates Christmas in one way or another. I don't care for it. Being able to join a holiday celebration is nice. But there is an expectation that I will participate which I don't like- I feel like I am "required" to join. And we never hear from her family for the High Holidays. Like with most Christians in the US, they are unaware that America's default religion is Christianity.

OP, beyond the tree- beyond the tree, how would you feel about the expectation that you bring your child to Christmas parties every year? How about having to explain and re explain Jewish holidays? Do you want your kids to participate in Easter Bunny stuff?  Only you know the answer to these questions. But think about them now.

OP, a lot of people in this thread are dumping on you, saying that you're controlling, or don't appreciate diversity. These posters don't understand what it's like to live in a Christian world when you aren't Christian. It's not controlling or not appreciative of diversity to want a Jewish home that provides a break from that. Having a Christmas tree is fine - if you're ok with that. But think beyond the tree to what the other expectations will be with regards to events, family participation, etc. [/quote]

I think what people are pointing out is that if OP wants a Jewish home then a relationship with a Christian woman who celebrates Christian holidays in some way is not going to work. Particularly since there are kids of both religions involved. Seems like the views are pretty consistent on this point.

Of course OP hasn’t returned so is no doubt a troll trying to stir things up again. It’s been at least 2 weeks since the last Christmas tree for Jews thread. [/quote]

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