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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When you date or marry outside your religion, you’re on a crash course for disaster. [/quote]

Not necessarily.  But avoiding disaster requires A LOT of communication, and a willingness to compromise.

I'm a Jewish woman married for 17 years to Christian with whom I am raising two Jewish kids.  Every single one of those 17 years (plus the two before we were married but lived together, come to think of it) there's been both a Menorah and a Christmas tree in our house.  We spent a lot of time ironing out our religious differences while we were still dating - would either of us attend a house of worship/if so, when and would the other partner be expected to attend/tree or no tree/how to raise our kids/etc.  We recognized very early in our relationship that if we couldn't come to some mutually satisfactory agreement on how we'd reconcile our differences, then moving forward as a couple was pointless.

To the OP - a tree with some pretty baubles and twinkling lights is going to be the absolute *least* of your issues in an interfaith household (especially if there's any chance at all that the two of you plan on having children together).  If your non-Jewish partner having a tree and other symbols of her faith in the house that you share is a deal-breaker for you, then you are indeed headed for disaster.  Best to cut your losses now and move on, in fairness to everyone involved.[/quote]

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