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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Right now my kids are in 10th and 8th.

I worry about my first kid possibly boomeranging back home. It's hard to tell...some days I think it will never happen; other days I think, how can this kid ever get to self-sufficiency?

In contrast, my youngest is very self-sufficient and when she leaves the nest, I can see her flying high and not looking back.

So, I'm thinking when the youngest is in her first or second year of college, we rent out our house and rent an apartment somewhere; maybe in the same city, or in another city where my DH's firm has an office. [/quote]

I'm the poster quoted, and since I wrote that I think I have to revise my plans.  My goal with my potential boomerang kid was to get her to college at least one plane flight away (not driving distance) as I was worried she'd appear on our doorstep when the slightest thing went wrong.  And then rent out the house to give no way for her to boomerang.

However; I've just discussed this with someone who has three kids and one is that potential boomerang kid.  She wanted her boomerang kid to go to college far away, and was bummed when that kid chose a local university (but living in a dorm.).  Turns out, though, that college was hard on that kid and she developed an eating disorder and depression.

The mom told me she was now so glad the kid chose the local university because that kid now comes home twice a week and the parents are observing and helping her.  Had she gone to the other big-name school across the country, the mom would have had to pull her.

So.  I guess I can't make plans until I see how my potential boomerang kid develops, and then go from there.  I keep reading here that they grow up a lot in high school, and she does seem to be making progress.  It's just so slow in comparison to my youngest, who seems ready to function as an adult at 14.

If anyone feels like their former 16 y.o. was never going to grow up, and they did and fledged just fine, I'd like to hear it!  I want to make my empty nest plans too! LOL[/quote]

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