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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, do you work or have access to joint funds? What will happen if you just call the plumber and get the work done, cut a check and call it a day? This is what i would do.

Also you need to have a come to Jesus with DH. About how there were dysfunctional patterns in your families of origin and how you should both try consistently do better for your kids. For the types of things you described - i would say marriage therapy is definitely warranted. But both have to be willing. [/quote]

Thank you for your support, seriously.  Agree that marriage counseling would be optimal - but if DH agreed to that, he would have to also agree that his family of origin is less than picture perfect, which would never (yes, never) happen.  But yes, I agree owning the issues and looking to correct them is step one.  I try to do that with my family of origin - I think he was attracted to me because I was opposite of his meltdown prone, anxiety ridden mother. I do not know how much I can do myself, but I am willing and trying. I don't escalate, because I know that is what he wants, because that is (having spent a decent amount of time around his family, by now) what he is accustomed to.  [b]Anything for attention[/b].  [b]For example, he has learned that people listen to him when he complains about money, so that is what he does[/b], even though it is not really an issue.   I would love to talk to a therapist that is familiar with familial disorders, and some of the issues I mention, and where to go from here. I think I should at least try implementing some tried and true methods before I throw in the towel. [/quote]

This is what stood out to me from page 1 - everything has to be about him. Your cancer, your daughter’s health, the hot water heater - it’s all about him. (Sorry if I’m confusing two posters.) But the rest of it sounds like some very bizarre coping mechanisms. [/quote]

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