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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Any donor egg mothers have children that are now teenagers or older? I’m interested in how older children process the news that they are not genetically related to their mother.[/quote]

My understanding is that a lot of it depends on how the news is delivered and when.  Most encourage early, open discussion with DE children. [b] I also understand from the counselor that DE isn't like adoption, in that the child won't feel a loss of their birth parents or abandonment, and that the tendency is for DE children to be more curious about possible siblings than feeling disconnected to their birth parents, assuming they don't feel betrayed by the fact that DE was kept secret from them.[/b]

Unfortunately, the only teen DE kids I know personally don't know that they're DE (at least I think that's the case) so I can't talk to them about it.  [/quote]

Yes, that is what the counselor provided from the clinic would want you to believe now isn’t it?  There are many websites with donor conceived children who have known the truth their whole lives and still have major resentment over it. [/quote]

Nope.  Counselor wasn't from the clinic, she's an independent counselor that has written books about DE and is not associated with any clinic.  I also did independent research.  Further, I used a known donor, so identity of donor isn't an issue either.  Are there some exceptions, sure.  But there are also depressed/miserable people who aren't from DE.  Some people will be unhappy no matter what.    [/quote]

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