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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds so pretentious. “We don’t do juice.” “We don’t do malls.”  “We don’t do tablets.” It’s always said by parents with kids 5 and under too. For example if someone asked me if my kids liked pop tarts I would just respond “oh they haven’t tried them yet.” Instead of saying “We don’t do pop tarts.” [/quote]

It’s less pretentious than “I don’t give my kids juice” or “I don’t take my kids to malls.”[/quote

No, it sounds much MORE pretentious.

I don't give my kid's X means you made a choice not to give them X.

We (almost like the royal "we") don't do X is a statement that not only means you don't give your child X, but it implies that X is distasteful and you don't agree with others giving X either.  The height of pretension.  Not only a statement, but a judgment of others who do.

"We don't do tablets" means that not only do these parents not allow their children tablets but they disagree with screen time for children.  It's a judgmental and boorish phrase.[/quote]

I'm looking for alternative statements.  Should I just say, "We are trying our best not to expose our child to games on phones or other devices"?  Then, should I pick different friends if they don't put them away?[/quote]

So, your comment is intended to get the other person to comply with your preference?  I mean, if someone is looking at their phone, and you tell them that you are trying not to expose your kid to phones, you expect them to put their phone away?  Then yes, you need different friends, because you are very presumptuous.  [/quote]

I don't look down on adults using their phones judiciously.  I DO look down on parents entertaining their toddlers in random elevators and in Target with phone games.  This can get very addictive.  Plus, elevators and Target are entertaining for children on their own.

By the way, I have a much older DC also (teen).  I have never regretted any of my screen limitations.  [/quote]

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