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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We already have one child. Since we married later in life, before child no. 1 was conceived, we agreed we would not pursue IVF, etc. and would pursue adoption. We are now trying to conceive our second child, and it’s not happening. Neither one of us is interested in fertility treatments, but I’m interested in pursuing adoption, but my husband says his “heart isn’t in it.” He doesn’t even want to research, meet with other people, attend a seminar. He says he’d be fine adopting a first child, but now that we know we can have children, he only wants biological children. I’m upset because (a) I’m not getting pregnant; (b) husband thinks his sperm volume has gone down in the last year or so, but is unwilling to have this checked out; (c) husband lobbied me hard for a second child, and now seems to be precluding me from having one. I feel like my options are divorce or resigning myself to only having one child. Also, we could keep trying naturally, but that’s really getting to be unfun - sex just to precreate and then worrying about ovulation predictor kits and every little symptom during the two week wait. [b]Any advice for me? I’m miserable.[/b] Sort of want to give up trying to conceive, but since I know we won’t adopt, that’s like really giving up. As a side note, I really wanted a girl and we have a son.[/quote]

Therapy. Alone or as a couple. [/quote]

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