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OP again. Yes, we are old. But he very much wants to have another bio kid. And he’s going to be in grandpa territory anyway, with the kid he already has. My struggle is that he only wants a bio kid conceived naturally - he does not want adoption or fertility treatments.[/quote]

OP, I get it. I know it hurts very much.  Sometimes men have unreasonable views on fertility treatments.  Your husband is NOT unreasonable in his preference for a bio child.  That would be best all around.

I've been through something like this where my DH just refused to have a second child, and I was 40 at the time so I felt we was precluding my chance at a family I wanted, and we agreed upon. The best advice I can give you is that things change, sometimes in a matter of months.  It's not a bad idea to take the pressure off for a few months and then gently bring it up again. No good will come of you hammering him every day if things have reached a sore point.  I know it feels like you're old and this has to be done RIGHT NOW but trust me, you can shelve the matter for a few months. It's not life and death.

For us, DH reconsidered and I had my second child at 42 and THIRD at 45. [/quote]

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