Reply to Would you date a woman in her mid twenties with 2 toddlers?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Would you date a woman in her mid twenties with 2 toddlers?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote] I hate the attitude that single moms should only raise children until the kid goes to college and then can have a personal life - my son needs a happy mom and one who has balance.[/quote]

Here we see the infinite female capability to rationalize doing whatever she wants to do as being "good for the kuds". Disgusting![/quote]

I think that award goes to the PP who stated it was sexually repressive to not want to live with moms boyfriend.  Yes because that’s what every 12 year old wants, to be perfectly content knowing their mom is being adequately railed by her new man.  I’m the pp who’s mother abstained from having any relationships (that we knew about) as children.   Guess what we didn’t need growing up, some random inserting himself into our family dynamic.  My mom actually got married to her third husband about 8 years ago when my youngest sibling left for college.  We all have a good relationship with him and appreciate that he makes our mom happy.  What children don’t need is turbulence and big changes while growing up.  My mom’s first husband died in the iran-iraq war.  Her second husband (who she was matched with by family) was an abusive alcoholic.  She didn’t fantasize about being “swept off her feet” because she had already dealt with difficulties in life.  She worked two jobs and put herself through grad school to provide for us.  She did everything possible to ensure that we were always her first priority.  Incidentally, all three of her children ended up doing well and with stable families of their own without any major hang ups or issues and I personally attribute that to being my mom’s single most important priority as a kid.[/quote]

You have a naturally selfish, consumer-like attitude toward your mother. The fact of the matter is that the pool of available men dwindles with age, and your mother could have very easily not found someone to date and marry after your youngest sibling went away to college. She could have easily ended up alone for the rest of her life. You and your siblings would have gone on to college, first jobs, dating, first apartments, first marriages, children of your own. Your mother at that point would recede to a sidenote in your life, and the fact that she is alone would have mattered to you not at all.  If you are a typical American, you'd probably be content seeing her a month out of a year, and you wouldn't care that she's alone for eleven months out of the year.  But hey, as long as you got a childhood of your dreams, it doesn't matter because kids = #1.

Mind you, I'm not saying you're wrong. Just that you are a typical child who sees parents as something to consume, not individuals with needs and feelings of their own. In your mind, what's good for you = what's good for your mother. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics