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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Choosing to become engaged and married is an adult decision.  While it is their decision, it is my decision (as a parent) to not support a married couple. To me, that means health insurance, help with living expenses and footing the entire wedding bill.

My suggestion is to layout your expeditions. A 20 year old has no idea how much $$ they will need to live, from health insurance to car insurance, etc. Lots of financial stress.[/quote]

There it is. The same parent who holds ollege tuition over her kids' heads to control them. Continuing to try to use money as a control even when it hasn't been asked for and long after it is appropriate.

control freaks need to find a better way to deal with their children. And if you wonder how bad mothers and law are created, you have it right here[/quote]

Ok so are you saying parents SHOULD pay to support a married couple? To what extent?  For how long?[/quote]

I am pp of this post. College tuition was not part of this discussion. I am assuming this couple will wait for graduation to marry. Many kids live at home after graduation while they pull $$ together for renting an apartment, buying a car etc. Maybe YOU are willing to house a married couple. I am not.[/quote]

Agree with this. What newlywed young couple wants to live with their parents or in-laws?? I'm one of the PPs who got married at 22, right after graduation. No way would either set of parents have supported us financially. We paid for our own apartment, car insurance, health insurance, groceries, etc. I would never have expected our parents to house us or contribute financially, and they would have laughed their asses off if we'd suggested it. We lived frugally in the early years but it was doable. There was a VERY clear expectation, regardless of being married, that we and all of our siblings would be out the door within a month of graduation anyway. [/quote]

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