Reply to Help. 20 year old son.

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Help. 20 year old son."

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]I think the first thing to say to the son is that you're happy for him and that he's chosen a great partner.  But later I'd have a sober conversation about making a life for oneself that involves finances and raising kids.  I'd strongly advise them to take every precaution to avoid having a baby until they're financially stable, independently from the parents.  I'd also offer to continue paying for his tuition through graduation conditional on them BOTH staying in college and graduating.  If they're going to live together off campus, that could end up saving you money since they'd be sharing a room.

So long as they both still graduate on time without a baby in the picture, the worst thing that can happen is that they divorce within a few years.  That's hardly a tragedy and doesn't put either of them in a worse position than they would have otherwise been.  If it works out, it's got the potential to be a HUGE benefit to them if they go to grad school.  I was super jealous of the people in grad school who had a spouse who worked to pay for their 1-bedroom apartments instead of the student going deeply into debt to pay for living expenses.  And the spouse was the student's default entertainment, not to mention that they didn't have to expend energy trying to date and meet someone before they turned 35.  [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics