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This is your hill to die on. Seriously. If you don’t do something drastic they will always stomp all over your boundaries.

This is worth burning vacation days to get out of the house. Be SURE that you take the kids with you. Otherwise they’re getting rewarded with grandchildren time. Try to time it so the groceries are running out when you leave and your DH is in charge of them for the whole visit.

If they stomp all over your boundaries, you can only choose how you react, so for this trip my response to everything would be:

[b]“I don’t know what DH planned, please check with him.” Big smile. Rinse and repeat.[/b]

This would be in response to questions about dinner, towels coffee, etc. Leaving with the kids makes the imposition uncomfortable for the in-laws. The “ask DH” approach makes it uncomfortable for DH. I would write down his office number, the admin number and any other contact info you have for him. Then I would have lots of “conference calls” and just mouth can’t talk handing them the list of numbers. The moment you’re done with calls you’re running late and rush out of the house - even if you’re just killing time at Starbucks.

If the ILs want to play games, show them you can play too.[/quote]

This is perfect.  Totally chipper and utterly unflappable.  [/quote]

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