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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here- Thanks so much for the honest opinions, I really appreciate it!

I didn’t date much when I was overweight and now the attention is a little overwhelming. I do want to eventually get married and I think I’d be a great step mom some day. Im not just looking to hook up, so that’s why I was wondering if men might see me as a red flag. I’m a kindergarten teacher so I do like kids, but I know the ship has sailed for me to have my own and that’s okay.

I didn’t hide in my house for years while overweight, I travelled extensively so I guess I’m interesting in that way. I’m not a complete loner, but my circle is small. It’s just that people always ask right away why I’m still single and I don’t really know what to say. Eventually I have to open up about the weight, but for now I just say I didn’t find the one.

Is there anything I can do to make myself more appealing at this age? Not looks wise but just in general. [/quote]

When people ask you why you are still single, what happened, etc... Be honest. Tell them that you struggled with your weight and was working to making yourself the person you are now and not focused on "finding someone" because it's not about the game or the chase, it's about the person. Sadly, people still look at a person's body before looking at someone's heart so it's a valid, true reason to be alone. And if that's not enough of an answer, remind them that they are getting to know the person you are now, and the person you were then will come with time and not questions, but with trust.

As for making yourself more appealing: Be interesting. I mean it. Have hobbies, a wit, a wink--  be a good conversationalist and don't play dumb. Dumb is great when you're young, but when you're older, it comes off badly.

Hope that helps.[/quote]

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