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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the real reason it bothers people is that it highlights the myth that the US is a meritocracy. [/quote]

Exactly this. People who assume anyone who gets financial help from their parents are leeches on society are likely just uncomfortable with the idea that people who are hardworking ALSO often benefit from parents who have disposable income.

I have been working full-time since I graduated from grad school. My husband has as well. We do not take money from my parents for daily expenses, but my parents are wealthy and gave us $50,000 for our wedding. We used that money for a down payment on our first house. I am not going to apologize for accepting money my parents offered to us (I never asked for it). Without it we would've had to wait a much longer time to buy a home. We are a perfect example of how privilege can work. [/quote]

No that is not true. I am fully independent. My parents did help me one time with a down payment. They also basically support my brother and his wife and their child despite the fact that wife chooses to be a SAHM and brother is fully capable of working. Brother is making choices that lower parents ability to retire/responsibly prepare for them self and consequently possibly endangering MY fiscal future as I will not let my parents live in destitution.

One time or even occasional gifts are NOT the same as needing your mom and dad to supplement your mortgage and grocery bills half the time. I don't think anyone here is really criticizing someone like you. They are criticizing the people like my brother. [/quote]

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