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[quote=Anonymous]Ok so friend groups can be hard and there's group think. But it seems like the old friends ARE still willing to hang with him. Can he ask ONE person to go out to a movie/bowling/golf/whatever -- someone who he thinks is likely to want to get out but only games 24-7 bc that's what everyone in their group is doing so that's what the social option is? If he thinks that'll offend people -- why not text the whole group with something like -- "hey I was wanting to get out to x movie or the driving range or whatever on Saturday afternoon, would love if anyone wants to join." Sometimes I think specific plans get more responses than -- we should hang out -- bc then the hanging out just becomes the path of least resistance which for this group is video games.

Also while you mean well, in HS relying on your sister for social plans doesn't work. I mean they aren't Brandon and Brenda Walsh with a mutual friend group. She'd have to 'inconvenience' her group/ask a 'favor' to bring her bro along and her friends may begrudgingly say yes but it may diminish her goodwill with them. The only way this can work organically is if her friend group starts hanging out at your house a lot. Then it's expected a younger brother will obviously be there and can watch movies etc. with the group -- if THEN the group sees him as cool, some independent friendship spark with him, then he can be a legit friend not just a tagalong brother.

Finally -- it just sounds like a social rut, which is a great time to take up an activity. For a 9th grade boy, I'd recommend a spring sport. Seems like he did a fall sport at school but didn't make friends? For the spring sport --he should go in not worrying about the sport so much but more about socializing. And again the socializing happens by reaching out to 1-2 boys on the team or the whole team and saying -- hey I wanted to go do x, does anyone want to join?[/quote]

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