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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our kids were terrible at sports and we were so thrilled about it.  No travel teams etc to ruin our weekends.  We were quite happy to full pay for the elite colleges that they all went to, we could easily afford it, and it was all so stress free.  We always felt sorry for parents whose lives revolved around their kids' athletic pursuits.  It's all so fleeting for the vast majority, then what?  [/quote]

I don't know why anyone would be thrilled that their kids are terrible at something, especially something pretty central to the human spirit.  Sports at all levels are wonderful for what they are - a chance to compete, challenge one's self, develop friendships, teamwork, get exercise, use this amazing body that we've been given.  Many adults play sports for these same reasons.  It's fun!  And anyone can play sports, even non athletic types.[/quote]

I was thrilled because we didn't have to spend endless gruesome weekends traveling to god knows where and dealing with sports obsessed parents.  That's why.  The kids did county league non=travel sports with other non-athletic kids and their friends and got their exercise and jollies that way.  I couldn't imagine having to deal with the whole travel thing.  Sounds like a total nightmare. [/quote]

It is probably for the best you decided for your kids that you couldn't get beyond your own anxieties and prejudices. I wouldn't the other parents to have had to deal with someone like you as another team parent.

However, my mom sounded like you. For years I believed I wasn't athletic, because she didn't want to deal with the "nightmare" of travel sports. As an adult, on my own, I have discovered that in fact I am quite athletic. And I will always wonder what could have been. For my own kids, I went a different path. I tried really hard not to put my own preconceived notions and my own anxieties on my kids, but instead tried to allow them to flourish and find their own path. I also tried to keep an open mind about their interests, even when I didn't get it (see: dance).

FWIW I have a much better relationship with my teens (part of that through travel sports) than I had with my mom as a teenager. And they're appreciative of what we've done for them. And I've discovered that some of my preconceived notions were really off. Dance moms are really nice. Children's theater performances aren't universally painful to watch. Watching your kid excel in something you'd never try is a gift. I am so glad I didn't let my own prejudices block them. It's been a wonderful experience and I'm going to miss it when the last one goes to college.[/quote]

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