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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP.  I am not looking to divorce.  I am looking at a temporary separation that would benefit everyone.  I would never ever move with the children without my DH agreeing to it.  He could come too if he wanted.  We are in a financial mess.

Am I responsible for our mess? Yes I take responsibility for my role in it.  However, what is done is done.  It’s time for me to figure out a situation that benefits everyone, including my DH.  We don’t want a divorce- but we need some time and space to figure out our lives.

This is a very sad time for us.  I want the best for my DH too.  I wouldn’t do anything to hurt him more.  And I know how much our children mean to him.

We are making decisions with grace and compassion for each other.

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If there is noting tying you to the East Coast, perhaps you should all move - or you go immediately with the kids and he follows.

I'm the PP who had a father out of a job when I was a child - it was situational/not his fault, but at one point he fell into a funk and was not employed and not looking. That was stressful.

And guess what - my mom was a teacher.  Admittedly, we lived in an area with a relatively low cost of living and my parents were financially conservative and saved - no car payments, etc.  Not very realistic in the 21st century on the East Coast and they also didn't have a 26 weeker to look after, but they had saved and it kept us more than afloat.

Frankly, it doesn't sound like you want a divorce, so I'd try to avoid one.  Make this about what you're going to do for the family now while he figures out a path forward.

I'd make your stay with your parents as short as possible.  It sounds like they may be a little too involved.[/quote]

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