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[quote=Anonymous]I’m overweight and have tried all the diets. Atkins, south beach, WW, intermittent fasting, etc. 
during this time,  my Dh hounded me about what I ate. He used all kinds of tactics to encourage me to go to the gym. He bothered me about getting my cholesterol checked, blood pressure. Don’t you want to be around for the kids!?, he said. 
 if I went for a short walk, I got proud of myself only to walk in the door and be met with, “you’re already back?” 
 He’s very fit and I felt like hell every time he did this stuff. 
Then my DH started getting treatment for unrelated anxiety, work stress stuff. He started meditating. Yoga. 
He isn’t irritable anymore, he’s very pleasant. I actually want to spend time with him. “Let’s go for a walk after dinner” becomes quality time. 
So that was about a year ago. In the last two months I’ve opened up to him, sharing that I want to lose weight but I feel so defeated. He told me, you can do it, you’ve got this. I have lost 10 lbs over this time period by eating healthy fruits and vegetables and lean meats. I noticed I don’t crave foods, hide foods, emotional eat. I talk to my husband and tell him truthfully about stuffing a bag of chips in my mouth. He said, tomorrow’s another day. 
This is extraordinary. My husband changed himself and left me alone for a year and we are closer. I am healthier. 
Work on yourself. Read about codependency and learn some tips from the 12 step program. Deal with your resentment. Not by trying to change him but by being emotionally healthy. If your goal is to change him, you’ve already lost.  
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