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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi OP - I saw your previous post, this sounds like a really difficult time, please ignore some of the very negative posters. I really recommend, as others have said, that you and your wife see a therapist experienced with teens together. If he will not go to therapy right now, the best best thing you can do for your family is get support for you and your wife. A therapist can help you think through how to respond, how to remain consistent and how to be a united front. Once you have a good support system for yourself in place, a consistent plan for responding, and a therapist who can help you understand what is going on below the surface of the cursing you may get to a place where your son is willing to participate. But start yourself first. Remember below the yelling there are a lot of emotions going on for your teen, you need to figure out what is going on with him and within your family dynamic. Teens can be very tough, it sounds difficult but I think you’re taking first steps. Also consider talking to your teen about what’s going on outside of the time the behavior is occurring- witha goal of better understanding your son, not punishing or telling him what he did wrong.. The therapist could help with having these convos. [/quote]

Thanks for your thoughtful response. I don't know who are these other person(s) posting hurtful comments or what is making them do it, I am trying not to get dragged into that level. I am yet to come to terms with understanding him swearing at me, and still think it is stress and anxiety. This is a kid we brought up by reading books to him at night, took to places and explained history and stories of great people, traveled to EC competitions at regional, state, and national level, played sports with him, went to movies, vactions, took a paycut to work closer to home, sacrified our careers, our discretionary income, on and on.. we keep wondering what we have done wrong, but couldn't find anything other than perhaps not stepping back a year earlier and giving some tools / outside help to navigate HS years. Better late than never, so we are doing it now, also this experience will help with the younger kids.[/quote]

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