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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You stayed in an exclusive (and sexless) relationship with this guy for 2 years!  That was your choice to stay with him, Op.  Something about the relationship must have been working out for both of you to stay with him so long.

You say you both loved each other but you couldn't see resigning yourself to never having sex again so you broke up with him.  Fair enough and certainly understandable.

While it is also totally understandable that this guy is heartbroken, even devastated over losing you, it is terrible for his mother and sister to be hounding YOU like this.  My guess is the guy is distraught and his mom and sister have been dealing with quite a train wreck.  They are appalled by the state he is in and are crediting you with his despair.

Your ex extremely emotionally fragile right now and his mom and sister are his support system.  I think it would be extremely unkind of you to tell his family the private details of your sex life (or lack thereof) with this guy.  You were just as much a part of that scenario as he was for the past two years.

Don't say anything to his mom and sister.  Or if you do say anything keep it respectful  "I loved Stan but I did not see our relationship working out long term.  This is a very sad time for me, too.  Please, no more texts."[/quote]

Wow. Why are you blaming OP? She stayed too long, without a doubt. But she got a wake up call and broke it off when she realized it wasn't going to work. [/quote]

Point is, she stayed with the guy for 2 years in a sexless relationship.  That was Op's choice and she needs to own that.  The details of their private sexual relationship should not be discussed with this poor man's mother and sister.  Disclosing details like that would be hitting below the belt and a completely nasty thing to do.  Nor would I fire off mean zingers at him - "Your family makes me glad I dumped your azz, buster!"

Be nice.  Be a class act.  Treat him with respect.[/quote]

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