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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would guess--and would hope--that neither your ex or your child will put your cheating in the past. You sound horrible.[/quote]

Wow.  As I mentioned above, I didn't have an affair.  I'm curious why you think I sound so horrible?  [/quote]

I am a different poster and agree you sound awful. 50/50 is always crap for the kid. Your posts are all about you , and not paying child support seems to be your main goal.[/quote]

I'm a NP and I disagree.  50/50 is not always crap for the kid and it often has nothing to do with child support, especially if both parents are successful working professionals.  Many times 50/50 means that both parents maintain an equal part in the decision making and parenting of the child, it can mean that the weekly/monthly schedule is what works best for the child and not dictated by a court order that says every other weekend and Wednesday nights are for one parent. Additionally, when the child sees that both parents have a strong commitment to their well being - personally in the amount of time they spend together, the decisions they consider AND the money spent- they know they have two advocates and hopefully not adversaries.

I think it is hard to look  at other people's situations and make a judgement.  What sounds like it wouldn't work for you or your kid might work really well for another family in a different situation.  I think the Dad sharing his experiences is saying that having a 50/50 arrangement helped his relationship with his child and allowed he and his ex to work through the arrangements in time.  If his ex were given primary custody it probably wouldn't have evolved into such a working relationship.  [/quote]

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