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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents love to pat themselves on the back about their supposedly amicable divorce.  I do appreciate that they can be superficially cordial and refrain from making public scenes.  Still, it is a giant hassle for me.  They both expect the same level of care and support that I could give them as a married couple living in the same location, and become angry at me when I try to set boundaries.

[b]There is no Amicable Divorce Retirement Home where you get two units for the price of one.  There is no Amicable Divorce Airline that lets you visit both for half price.  Sometimes they are both sick at the same time and I must choose between them.  It sucks.  I hope all of you are prepared for this phase of life.[/b][/quote]

Thank you for sharing your perspective. It makes so much sense. I am a married DW and our DC1 is in college. The visits home is few and far between from our perspective but I can imagine it would be a nightmare if DC1 had to go to two different homes to meet mom and dad.[/quote]

Yep.  Now imagine doing it with toddlers.  Or imagine if they are both seriously ill at the same time, far apart.

I don't wish they were still married.  But I do wish they had more realistic expecations.[/quote]

I do believe some of this comes down to the personality of the parents. When I was still married, we had two sets of intact parents/grandparents. One set made things easy--not fussy about exact dates of holidays, no pressure to visit but always made us feel welcome, etc. The other set wanted every holiday and it didn't count unless it was the actual holiday, they expected us to visit them every 6 weeks at a minimum, when they visited us it was a logistical nightmare about sleeping arrangements and meals, etc. I would much rather deal with two easygoing divorced parents with reasonable expectations than one unreasonable set. [/quote]

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