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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Interesting how it says men are afraid to talk to women in public because #metoo and a guy talking to a strange woman in an elevator or at a bookstore would be seen as creepy. That's too bad -- I met many women that way when I was single. Barnes and Noble in Georgetown on a Friday evening was a great place to be![/quote]

I question that exaggeration.  I have never experienced that in dc and don’t know any of my single friends that have.0[/quote]

What exaggeration? The article specifically states that women said they'd find it creepy if a guy in an elevator started talking to them.[/quote]

I don't remember the elevator part of the article, but I do remember the book store one. The woman said something about having a fantasy that she'd be in a book store and a relationship would start with a guy striking up a conversation about her favorite author. Then she reconsidered and said, in real life, it would probably be creepy if a dude approached her like that. It's just flat out the difference between fantasy and reality. The fantasy is that a cute guy takes the hard work off the table by approaching you and making his interest in you clear while, at the same time, showing an interest in your interest and appreciating something about you that reflects your intelligence and personality (i.e. the books you like) rather than something overtly physical. In real life, the guy is likely to not be so appealing and might well just be faking an interest for sex.

The situation is worse now than it was in the past because the default is for people not to approach each other and to be otherwise engaged by looking at their phones. The people who are making cold approaches are the pushiest and, like as not, the creepiest. The decent guys have received the message, loud and clear, DO NOT DISTURB. Which is too bad because women mostly wanted the creepy guys to go away and don't actually mind if a decent guy strikes up a conversation once in awhile. If he picks up cues that she's busy or not interested, no big deal -- might even be a boost to her esteem even though it didn't work out. If she likes him, then great! But, instead, she's more likely to get the dude who should know she'd never be interested and does not go away when she makes clear she's not interested.

So, we get a decline in strangers meeting serendipitously in real life. [/quote]

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