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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Siblings A-D want their elderly parent cared for at home. That’s what the elderly parent wants. They all put in a lot of work at the parent’s house. The parent has a daytime helper (30 hours) but is often alone at night and they all coordinate visits on weekends. Sibling E wants the parent in a nursing home. E is in the medical profession and sees that the elderly parent has dementia and believes a nursing home would be the best care. E refuses to do the coordinated visits on the weekends (E does visit, but wants it to be a social call, not work). Also wants to hire someone to clean the parent’s house and do yardwork. Siblings A-D weekly clean the parent’s house, mow the grass, rake leaves, etc. Sibling A has power of attorney and control over the checkbook and won’t pay for these items (E refuses to clean because E believes the parent should hire someone). The elderly parent is 90 years old with over 5 million still, so could easily afford help or a nursing home. E would even be okay hiring more round the clock care, but doesn’t want to spend their own retirement cleaning their parent’s house.

Lots of fighting over care, help and sending the parent to a nursing home. Is there any solution? Both sides have points. 
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[b]How many siblings are there? I got confused. [/b] Which one are you?  Do you believe that your parent can make decisions?  If so, I would go with hiring more help to care for house and parent.  I think money can solve most of your problems.  Try having this situation but, no money![/quote]

Really?  There are siblings A-E.  E is the fifth letter of the alphabet.  So . . . [/quote]

I'm the pp.  Are you the op?   If not, your comment is unnecessary and mean.[/quote]

Hey, you asked how many siblings there are, and said you were confused.  Merely trying to further clarify that which was stunningly obvious in the first place.

But, I'm curious - why would this comment not have been "unnecessary and mean" if OP wrote it?  [/quote]

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