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[quote=Anonymous]Another adult adoptee here that never felt abandoned or a sense of anger about it. My parents are my parents. Never had an interest to search to find “parents”. I only asked my parents once about the circumstances of my birth. The story seemed made up to fit my mom’s ideals. From day one my mom I think felt worried about having someone come take me away, which was silly.

Fast forward many years and I went in the have 3 children.  When the oldest was about 4 and his personality and certain unique talents were so similar to my own I became intrigued to find out who the “players” in my story were. Did t actually take the DNA test until last year. Within 24 hrs I had essentially identified the bio parents (who were both deceased) and uncovered that the story my parents told me was very much true desire how crazy it sounded. Turned out that what I can my reality and my alternative possible reality were nearly identical. I grew up a wealthy suburb of NY. Birth parents were coworkers in Manhattan.  He was older and married with children ranging from 18-25.  His mother lived just under a mile from the house I grew up in.

Within 2 weeks of getting the results and finding out the whole story, birth brother 2 years younger shows up on my results. He was also adopted into a VERY different situation. He’s very well adjusted. He is very successful despite his upbringing in poverty with drug addicted adoptive father who died when he was 13.  Great example of NATURE triumphing over nurture.  He are very close and very similar despite different upbringing.

Totally say all this to highlight that every situation is unique. I have a friend who was also adopted. She found out last year that her birth parents were living in rural Greece with 5 full older bio siblings. She is not angry, she is actually very thankful for all her opportunities. 
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