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My dad was adopted.[b] To him, his adoptive parents were his parents, full stop.[/b] They also adopted a girl (not my dad's bio sister).

He was never interested in finding out much about his birth family -- maybe out of pain, but I think mostly out of a sense of loyalty. A couple of years ago, my mom convinced him to do the Ancestry testing and he was able to determine who his birth mother was, but not his birth father (although it is one of 3 brothers for sure--long story).

A nephew of my bio grandmother connected with mom and she got a lot of info, but my dad wasn't interested in connecting.

My dad was a pretty private, reserved guy, but he wasn't abusive, never had substance abuse issues, and lived a pretty normal life/

A friend my age found her bio family a few years ago. They want on to have two more children after her (it was actually one of them who got in touch with her first). I'm sure that was difficult to learn, but she too is still very loyal to the parents her raised her. She does keep in touch with her bio family and visits them from time to time. She's married with two kids, no obvious troubles in her life. 
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Yes, this is the way 99.9 percent of adopted people feel. Only a handful of adopted people feel otherwise. Don't listen to these, or the Lifetime movie plots that would lead you to believe that all adopted people feel incomplete unless they find their DNA relatives. 
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Most people who are adopted who are happy are not going online talking about it.  You only hear from the unhappy ones so it is heavily skewed.[/quote]

+1. I'm the PP with two happily adopted close friends and neither one would ever go on an adoption board because to them their adoptive parents are their parents and there isn't any need to soul-search over it. They have mom and dad, just like everyone else and don't even think of themselves as adopted...[/quote]

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