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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]And I feel horrible about it!  I love my older grandson more than life itself.  I cared for him for the first two years of his life - as an unpaid nanny, I suppose - while my DD and SIL were at work.  Then for the next three years, I picked him up from daycare/school once a week at noon and hung out with him thru dinner.  This beautiful new grandchild is happy, easy and so beautiful — but my feelings just aren’t there after six months.  I put on a show for DD but I’m really starting to worry about it!

I don’t want to give up my time once a week with my grandson and don’t have another afternoon to give to my granddaughter (I went back to teaching).  When I see a notification on my phone that there are new pictures in the shared album, I am disappointed when they are pics of my granddaughter and not my grandson.

And I am a typical American mutt so no cultural hanguls about boys being more valuable.  I just am so close to my grandson.

I could only admit this on a anonymous forum.  Even my DH doesn’t know how guilty I feel.  [/quote]

Was your grandson the first?  I have found that most grandparents especially if they have cared for them have a closer bond with the first grandchild.  This is the case with my mom and my daughter and also my mil with her first grandson ( sil's son)  I think you need to give it time and not be so hard on yourself.  Hopefully, your relationship will blossom as she gets older. It won't be the same but you will love her![/quote]

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