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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How do you access DC's account if you are not on their "friends" (or whatever) list? [/quote]

If you are on their phone, logged in as the child, you have access as owner of the account. [/quote]

But are you the owner of the account, if your DC is the one who opened the account, and you don't have the pw?  Do all parents have their DC's IG pw? [/quote]

OP here.   When we got her the phone and she asked about social media accounts, we held off for quite a while.  When we did allow her to get on social media sometime later, we had many discussions, one of which was about the importance of parents having all-access to each account.  I had her write down all passwords and usernames and told her I could check on what she was doing anytime.  I also said that it wouldn't be an everyday thing because I wanted to respect her having room to make her own decisions and thought it would be good for her to have some level of privacy.  But I also told her that I needed to know all the passwords, just to be on the safe side.

And that's how I handled it.  I didn't look aggressively but rather scrolled through texts and social media here and there when I thought to do it and looked out for any words or messages that might seem alarming or inappropriate.  But I never looked super thoroughly at her snapchat account and also had [b]no idea that she created an additional instagram account without my knowledge.

[/b]In short, I can access her accounts just as easily as she can because I have the same accessibility (i.e. log in information). [/quote]
And this is where the parent control theory falls short! Kids can always set up an extra account or three and use them to do whatever they want, and you'll be checking their facade Instagram and pat yourself on the head because all you think your angel is interested in is her upcoming SATs..

FWIW, my child is still in elementary, but I'm already worried about social media. We'll try to hold off on giving DD a smartphone as long as we can, but, eventually, it will have to happen. Of course, we will talk to her about it, blah, blah, blah, but, at that point, it will be pretty much out of our hands. Short of physically taking away the access to Internet, I can't see any way of controlling anyone's online behavior.
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