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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How was she "disrespecting" him? She wasn't actually late, she made it out the door on time... he didn't leave her behind because she was late, he eft her behind because he couldn't tolerate being called on his own tone! SHE used a grumpy tone of voice. He called her on it, which is perfectly appropriate, and she apologized but also stood up for herself, expressing her view that he wasn't being very nice to her either, which is also perfectly appropriate, and he had a tantrum, kicked her out of the car, and now won't speak to her or sit down with her and have a normal conversation ("Hey, I'm not feeling too good about the other morning, and I know you aren't either, can we talk about why we each got upset and try to find a better way to handle morning?")

It sounds like SHE was acting like the adult, and he was acting like... well, gee, Brett Kavanaugh and Donald Trump come to mind.[/quote]

You're part of the reason men aren't more sympathetic to women--I say this as a woman.  You are actually equating him to Brett Kavanaugh and Donald Trump?  Who wants to listen to real cases of misogyny, when everything is equal.  A dad making his daughter walk to the bus is equal to someone who grabs women by their P and to a man who allegedly attempted to rape someone? She is not acting like an adult if she is late on a daily basis.  If you had to drive your spouse to work daily and everyday they are late, would you think that's ok?  [/quote]

Not equating DH to a rapist or assaulter - but [b]the male tendency to fly into a rage[/b] when challenged is what they have in common. Instead of, oh, I don't know, speaking to his DH with empathy, a willingness to listen, and - gasp - maybe even a willingness to occasionally admit fault himself. ("You're right, I was maybe being overly critical. I guess I get frustrated sometimes, but I'm sorry I hurt your feelings. What are your thoughts on how we can make mornings go more smoothly without us getting frustrated at one another?")[/quote]

Who are the men you hang out with?  I didn't grow up with men with that tendency.  Please stop generalizing.  
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Fair enough. Not all men are like this. But DH's behavior is like this. [/quote]

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