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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It shouldn't. Most men aren't near the parents moms are. It is just a dodge to not pay child support.

OP, just start at 50/50 and take all the extra time he gives up. Don't trade. He will start dropping time when he realizes how much work it is to actually parent. Or he will start dating again and lose interest in spending so much time with the kids.[/quote]

Dad's don't parent exactly like moms but they are loved by their children and parent in their own way. It's a shame so many women minimize the love kids have for their dad in marriage and in divorce. You had kids with the dude. He's their parent and guess what, even if you hate [b]what he feeds your kids or how he dresses them,[/b] your kids love him and need/want him in their life as much as they need you. [/quote]

Please.  Moms aren’t concerned about what dad feeeds and dresses them in.  You’re clueless.  Moms are concerned IF their kids are fed and that they are picked up from school, childcare is arranged, mandatory doctors appointments scheduled etc.  But see feeding your kids requires planning.  Food doesn’t just appear in your fridge, especially after working all day.  And you have to schedule with babysitters, nannies etc to arrange childcare.  Most women wish their biggest concern was their husband feeding or dressing their child in something silly. No, we are concerned with their safety and well-being. Kind of like how we arenconcerned with the other actions common of men like sexual assault, sexual abuse and assault.  Men have problems.  [/quote]

Well this all goes back to why you chose to have kids with a dude you couldn't trust to even feedback your kids. Yeah, your life is gonna be hard when you make those choices. Men as a group have a lot of issues, but a lot of women a) choose to have kids with shitty mean and b) can't separate how a man is as a  husband from how he is as a dad. You gave your kids that dad, and kids love their parents. It is what it is. [/quote]

I have a husband who tries to do 50/50 and is an involved parent but I can still easily see how women are the default parents and WHY.  Men are typically unorganized and inept.  Just taking dC to the doctor seems to stress DH out.  [/quote]

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