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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't get the staying outside your own home for Christmas thing, (and our grandparents are several states away and are free to come whenever they want but we stay home) so take my opinion with a grain of salt.

But, Christmas is first and foremost about the kids. And so they would either meet my requests for certain things (like cookies for Santa) or we would not go. Period.
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Second, yes, you're a guest. However, you're also family. [/b]So, at least in our family, the formal nature of what "guests are permitted to do or not do" doesn't really apply. There is give and take, and a sort of "all in this together" mentality. We all have different traditions and so try to work those in.

So, no, your inlaws plan would not work for us.[/quote]

This.  All these people who think that the host is in charge and a guest just has to accept that--is that really how you see your own family?  Family coming together for a holiday is not the same as hosting a dinner party.  While a guest shouldn't try to insist on things being done their way, neither should the host.  Hosts and guests should make a genuine effort to make the holiday enjoyable for everyone, and a willingness to be flexible, make adjustments, and compromise so that the holiday is special and fun. [/quote]

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