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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wish someone had welcomed me into their home when my first stepfather was sexually abusing me.

I also wish someone would have welcomed me into their home when the son of my second stepfather, who already had a conviction for sexual assault, was abusing me. Instead, I was blamed for being “provacative”. I was 12 at the time, and who knows.. I may have been provocative as I was being abused by my stepfather as young as 4. I don’t think I was - it was things that a normal 12 year old girl should be able to do in their own home, like wear pyjamas.

As it was, my mother was an alcoholic as well, and I raised my brothers until I left home at 17. And no one “heard” me.

I married young, mostly as an escape, and divorced young. He was a good man and I regret it. I then got in an abusive relationship for years, mostly because it was a known. I got out, and met my now DH. I cheated on him online.

It took me forever to realize it wasn’t me. A lot of therapy and time, and soul searching. But no one ever listened, and I didn’t expect them to ever care about me as an adult. The wreckage of life behind me is soul sinking, but I’m finally in a good place.

I wonder what would have happened had I been able to leave that home situation earlier? [/quote]

Oh, and FWIW, I was also accused of “being dramatic”. I guess it was easier to deflect the guilt onto me. [/quote]

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