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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Looks like you have it about right.

In my experience, sexless marriages where it is not mutual (and that certainly happens), or if it is not caused by medical issues (and the left in the cold partner is actually being a decent person and taking care of their ill spouse) the marriage usually ends.  It is not, and cannot be, a permanent end state.

[b]The reduced enthusiasm for sex in my marriage coincided with her emotional and then physical affair with a colleague.  It is clear she lost the attraction to me first after ten years of marriage and kids, etc., then rekindled her sexual feelings for someone else.[/b]

I believe it is usually something like this that is happening.[/quote]

I often wonder if this is what's going on with my DW.  How did you find out?[/quote]

NP here - I found out or at least got suspicious because my DH seemed in a much better mood and stopped complaining about the almost lack of sex. It took about six months for a light bulb to go on in my head and it didn't take much effort on my part to figure out what is going on. He doesn't know that I know but somehow we are both happier. [/quote]

Interesting, thanks for sharing.  So you are able/willing to live with your DH getting sex elsewhere as long as it doesn't rock the boat at home?  Do you have no interest in him physically or desire to be with him intimately?  what if he gets emotionally attached to the AP?[/quote]

PP our home life is very good but we are not intimate. We are friendly and coexist but once we become empty nesters in two years I will leave. If he gets emotionally attached to his AP it something he will have to deal with. He may be now but it doesn't affect my life. I know this sounds very cold but it helps me cope with my mad marriage. [/quote]

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