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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He does a lot, just not very well so start with a compliment with thoughts on how to improve that will help make it easier for him. [/quote]

I think the first step is to stop the infantilising grown men. He’s not a toddler. You don’t need to praise him and validate the halfassed tasks.

Start by treating him like an adult. Be respectful. Sometime not  in the moment, but when you can sit down and talk, say: “This isn’t working. Let’s figure out how we can divide up tasks better.” Structure it so he has to deal with the inconvenience of his mistakes. He cooks dinner/makes lunches the day after he cleans the kitchen. He changes the 2am blowout if he’s sloppy with the bedtime diaper. [b]And as for leaving things out everywhere? I don’t nag but my DH knows that anything dangerous will end up on his office chair or if I’m really upset on his pillow[/b]. [/quote]

That just made me laugh picturing the hedge clippers on the pillow. [/quote]

NP here. My husband keeps leaving his shoes in the middle of our hallway, and I keep tripping over them. We have a baby - what if I fell while I was carrying him? I've tried explaining this so many ways but he just doesn't get it. So last week I left his shoes on his chair at the dining room table. He was PISSED. But he's been putting his shoes away... for now.[/quote]

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