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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] OP here. I know that this situation is not my fault but that I have allowed the behavior to continue far longer than I should have. I had convinced myself that I had sheltered the kids from his actions. It's just in the past six months that he has behaved poorly in front of them.
 I do WOH, but I make 1/4th of what DH and have 4x the commute and primary responsibility for childcare and housekeeping. I need to outsource some of the housework. 
 I have set boundaries including no more drinking. I have clearly stated to him that any further incidences will result in his being thrown out. I have documented the major incidents in my email, and he has done this in front of family, so I do have their experiences to support me. I also am aware of the fact that they would not necessarily make statements that could hurt him. 
 I have been to a therapist who suggested couples therapy. DH isn't interested. I am working on my own anxiety and the reactive anger that I have as a result. I have joined a gym with childcare so that I can put more into selfcare. I am working on being the best mom that I can be. I am also doing what I can to prepare for him to fail at staying sober. I don't see the current situation as being better than being a single mom, but I do clearly recognize the financial fallout of a divorce. I am in the thick of it but trying to see clearly.
 Hopefully the formatting pleases the arse who felt that my lack of paragraphs played into my husband's poor behavior. [/quote]

Please see a lawyer ASAP, and a therapist. Babette Wise specializes in families of addicts, is at Georgetown and takes insurance. If his alcoholic behavior continues he may lose his job, and you may be in a position to have to pay him alimony in a divorce. Definitely consult a lawyer. [/quote]

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