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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm still married but my marriage is over. Sex ended before the affair. My affair partner and I fell in love. I feel very detached from my husband. He broke my heart 1000 times with his rejection and emotional abandonment. I don't feel I owe him anything, he did so much damage to my life.

But I do owe my kids their home and school and intact life. o

So I have my home life and my love life. They're separate and it works for me.

I do find that I'm angrier at my husband now that I have someone who treats me well. It's not hard and it's not rocket science. 
[/quote] ba

Sounds to me like you might be re-writing history. The worse your husband treats you, the more justifiable your affair. Wanting the fun and excitement of sex with someone new while also not wanting to be a bad person who cheats creates some cognitive dissonance. Your mind eases that dissonance by "remembering" how bad your husband was to you. You remember it as being worse than it seemed when you experienced it at the time. That's why you're angrier now than you were when it was actually happening. Not to say this stuff didn't happen at all. You just have a subconscious incentive to juice up the bad and mute the good so that your actions now feel more justified. [/quote]

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