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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I think people are missing what I'm saying. I'm not talking about platonic love. I'm talking about deep love in a romantic relationship. Love that involves sacrifice, care, a strong desire to be with this person through thick and thin. That's the type of love I'm talking about. I think it is BOTH being in love and loving. Not trying to make that distinction. What I'm curious about is how common it is for a person to have that love grow deeper and never wane but to have the type of (excuse the lingo "itch in the private parts attraction) wane over time such that if given the choice between your partner and 99 other women to have sex with regularly you'd chose the 99 (even if you -- at one time -- wanted to choose this partner).

My point is that I'm being told that those two thing (those two  items of raw attraction and abiding love) go hand-in-hand. And for me, that's NEVER made any sense. In the beginning I never have love for a partner, but I do have lustful attraction. Over time, invariably, I tend not to have lustful attraction but I do have love.

Is this just the way it is always?[/quote]
No, they don't always go hand-in-hand, because no, that's not always the way it is.  Different people, different couples, have different experiences.  People aren't automata with identical reactions to identical stimuli. [i]Ceteris Paribus[/i] does not apply to the heart.[/quote]

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