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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Supposed to be" is just that. When my parents were ill and dying, my dh (who they disliked) and I were the only ones who showed up. My sibling had to be forced, and they were the one our parents expected to step up or "rude and die." Whoops.m

Though I care for them, I am under no illusions anyone else in my family will be there for me, other than my spouse.

The only people I know who are completely estranged from their families are like the examples given above, kicked to the curb for marrying some one of different race or religion, or being gay / lesbian.

On the other hand, my parents always told me if I voted for Obama they would never speak to me again. I never discussed politics with them, for obvious reasons, so that solved that. Also know one relative is hiding her daughter's female partner from the rest of our family, because her whole family would be shunned if she didn't disown her daughter. It's not just the children doing the shunning.

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This. I don’t think it’s just adult “children” cutting parents off, as much as it is parents drawing lines in the sand and the kids not conforming the way past generations would. Like in the past, the kids knew being gay or interracial partners wouldn’t be accepted, so they hid or broke off those relationships. Now, the kids are saying if you can’t handle it, that’s your problem. If you can’t accept me, you can’t be around me. [/quote]

or there was another person who posted a few months ago about a family that basically treated her like the black sheep and would ignore her a family outings, not invite her to have the family events, mocked her a lot. instead of showing up to be there but monkey she was talking about cutting them off[/quote]

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