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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It was kind of obnoxious to show that sort of over the top favoritism. You can’t blame her for pointing out the truth.[/quote]

Yup, agreed. [b]Always keep things equal in families. Always.[/b] You didn’t and this is what you get - hurt feelings.

Op, you sound like the dramatic one here. [/quote]
I so disagree. Even my five year old says “you get what you get and you don’t get upset.”
She spent a close amount on each gift. It’s hard to buy something personal for someone you don’t know as well. Once you’re adults, you need to stop counting “fairness” and let it go. Life isn’t fair. [/quote]

Life isn't fair. But, we are talking about family. Family relationships are filled with emotional pitfalls. If you don't keep things equal, someone will always feel hurt. You may not want to accept that or even care about it. Fine. But your relationships with these people with nonetheless be affected.

That stupid nonsense about getting what you get and don't get upset is what we tell kids to keep the whining down, but its not really true. I highly doubt you walk through your adult life passively accepting whatever the universe sends your way. I mean, if your coworker makes 30K more than you for the same job, do you just get what you get and not get upset? Right, no. [/quote]

My MIL has this same sense of everything must be fair.  As in she counts how many days we spend with my parents and counts how many days we spend with her.  If she would just focus on herself and enjoy the days she is getting to spend with us, instead of ruining those because she is busy perseverating on the fact we spent two more days with my parents three years ago, she would be a much happier person.  End result? We don't enjoy spending time with her and just don't tell her if we do something with my parents.  It is an impossible expectation that everything be kept completely fair in families. [/quote]

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