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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m kind of surprised by the hate here for OP. I think your response was harsh, but you were probably also put on the defensive. I’m on team OP. SIL2 brought it up and it’s out of line. 
Did SIL2 help plan SIL1’s party? Have you turned a milestone birthday yet and what did SIL2 do for it? 
I have two SILs that are very close. They grew up in the same home town and were in school from elementary to high school together. They live a couple hours apart. On the other hand, I grew up in a different state and live a plane ride away now. They are super close. It is what it is. Unless she’s tried to be friends and not been accepted, she needs to get over it. She can’t have a reasonable expectation of being as close if she turns down or does not extend invitations. That’s friendships 101. [/quote]

SIL2 brought it up quietly, and it seems, in private.  In a family, among people who are supposed to be kind and care about eachother, that's allowed.  You don't even have to agree about every element of what did or didn't happen, but you get to bring stuff up.

OP could have said "I'm sorry we hurt your feelings - that wasn't our intent.  If feeling excluded is the issue, let's talk about how to fix that because it sn't our intent."

Instead she threw a tanty.[/quote]
Please never use “tanty” again. [/quote]

Tanty droppers[/quote]

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