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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are few things I love more than a good debate. I enjoy discussing articles, recent events, history, etc. The longer I am married, the more I realize my spouse and I are not intellectually compatible. [b]He makes simple, non evidence based, illogical arguments frequently[/b]. I leave our convos feeling disappointed. I love the thrill of learning new things and having my viewpoints intelligently challenged. This lack of stimulation is seriously affecting us, both emotionally and sexually. I'm just not attracted to him anymore because he doesn't satisfy this important part of me. How can I fix this? Where can I go online or in-person to meet other people who could satisfy this part of me?
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This is why he won't discuss things with you; you put down all his opposing views as simple and illogical. Nobody wants to talk with someone who just slings ad hominem attacks.

Newsflash: once you get outside the DC area, 99% of people are like your husband. They care very little for politics, and they are too busy actually living life to spend their time reading [i]published, peer-reviewed literature[/i] so they can provide "evidence based" arguments (oh wait, are you even doing that? Or just parroting things from WaPo and your facebook feed?).

It's nobody's responsibility to teach you new things and challenge your viewpoints "intelligently", especially not your spouse's. Go on Amazon, find some books that argue the exact opposite of your opinions, and read those.

Plus, if you're like everyone else I know who loves discussing current events and politics, you don't *really* want someone to provide an intelligent argument against you. That would just piss you off. You want someone who agrees with you and provides more bulleted talking points that you can spout off to other people to sound even more smart. [/quote]

BOOM!!! 100% correct. Every word. [/quote]

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