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[quote=Anonymous]Whoa. You either need to own the choices re: school, prioritizing DH's career, and the move, or prepare to be miserable.

I am also the spouse of a field-grade, mid-to-late-career officer. Every move we've made has been a joint decision (keeping in mind that the Army can always do whatever it wants, but rarely goes quite that far), and has taken into account what I want, too, despite the fact that I earn far less than DH. That's the deal we made. If the deal you made was that you would work around your DH's military career, this was always a possibility.

However, I don't understand why you said yes to this co-op school. You haven't even tried the public schools or the base school. Is your DH required to live on post? If not, he can choose a longer commute for better access to schools. My suspicion is that you weren't thrilled with your current situation, and you've made choices that make it impossible to work but in such a way that none of it is your fault.

Military life is hard on a spouse's career, and you are truly dependent in a way a lot of people can't understand. But you are also making an awful lot of "DH says" choices here that ought to have been mutual decisions.

Are you the spouse who was living in NC and at her wits end with the job + child care b/c her DH was so busy all the time? [/quote]

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