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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why should they be interested in your kids? No one thinks your kid is special except for you. Parents like you annoy so many people. Get over yourself![/quote]

OP here. I don’t expect them to show tons of enthusiasm, but we all live in various states and abroad. I thought they would at least show up when we brought babies back to our parents house over holidays. They live close to parents so it’s not a big inconvenience. Also, before I became pregnant they were always visiting or in touch. As soon as my siblining and I had kids, they dropped off the face of the earth. [/quote]

It makes sense to me that you would be hurt by this [u]when it happened[/u], but now that you know the reason they didn't come to see your babies and the struggles they were facing, it makes no sense that you "can't get past the complete disregard" for your happiness.  I get that it hurt at the time but if you can't have empathy now that you know what they were going through, you are definitely overreacting.  Or you're just selfish.[/quote]

Oh come on. If they have no relationship with nieces or nephews, that doesn't just go away.

My SIL is not married and has no kids despite desperately wanting both. She is still very close to my kids (one of whom we struggled mightily to have, if that matters). I know it must hurt her not to have kids of her own, and we are sensitive to that. But that doesn't preclude having a relationship with her niece and nephew. I am from a close family and married into a close family. It would have devastated my inlaws if SIL had pulled away because we had kids. Fortunately we all value family and family bonds too much for that. And if my SIL ever does have or adopt a child, we will celebrate with her as she celebrated with us.[/quote]

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