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[quote=Anonymous]I know what OP is talking about. I really do, and it's not about mugs and crap, it's about the boomerang effect. You can never have a conversation with your spouse without opening up yourself to an arsenal of attacks. It's not a fair way to be with someone. But what I finally found sort of worked was similar to what others are saying. Not the "we" thing (which my husband sees right through), but more of a "hey, so I've been working on this whole thing where I leave glasses around the house, which I know drives you nuts. (true story). I'm wondering if you might be able to put that same energy into not leaving your socks on the floor (whatever it is.) It sort of acknowledges off the bat that 1. you had a complaint. 2. I'm working on it. 3. Can you do the same for me. At least in my house, that's working. It acknowledges your own shortcomings, your own efforts, and takes that out of the conversation. Maybe?[/quote]
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