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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I always just say we . "Wow the bill was high this month. We need to get better about turning the lights off, I know I always forget." "Shoot, we spent way too much money this week. We need to try to cut back next week to make up for it. I didn't even realize..." It's so easy. Nobody feels attacked and since you've already looped yourself in on the behavior too he and flip it on you as if you're acting holier than thou. [/quote] My DH totally calls that out--"And by 'we,' you mean 'me', right? It can come across as passive-aggressive, particularly if it is obvious that it is something your DH mainly does.[/quote] Also, it never really changes the behavior. Saying "we should budget more" typically means that the DH (or the one spending too much) doesn't stop but just expects the one that brought it up to change.[/quote]
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