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In OP's case, I have no idea what's up with her boyfriend, but OP--you need to tell him exactly what you said here. Have you sat down and told him frankly that you see he seems uninterested in sex and is distant? Have you addressed the idea that he may be with you because you satisfy his family? And is keeping them off his case his priority? Yes, your sexual incompatibility is a serious problem, but the idea of marrying a guy who wants you because at last he's found someone his family approves of--that's a setup for even worse problems than a lack of sex. Sex you can work on together IF you're both willing to try and maybe get sex therapy. (Is he?) But if his family would be all over your marriage, even if they adore you -- that's harder, because changing that dynamic means changing behaviors in several other people who aren't inside your relationship. That doesn't work, period, unless maybe you and he move far away from his family geographically.

[b]Have a very frank talk[/b]. If you feel you can't talk to him about what you wrote here, you and he are not communicating like a couple should. If you fear upsetting him or fear losing him if you're honest with him--you and he aren't going to last, unless maybe you both commit fully to couples therapy.

Do not marry him until the issues you posted about are dealt with. [b]Or else you'll end up married to his family, never truly married to him[/b].[/quote]

^ This.

Listen to this advice here regarding better communication and marriage to him (not the family).[/quote]

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