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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This truly isn't meant to be attacking anyone, and I hope there can be a serious discussion about it.

I work, but due to some weird circumstances have this week basically off.  Kids are 4 (full time daycare/preschool) and 7 (camp including aftercare).  This post does NOT apply to moms with young kids at home - that I get.  This week I've found myself feeling guilty that I can go to the pool and read, see friends, etc while DH is stuck at work.  Our situation is unique - I have a significant net worth due to inheritance but prefer to work, and DH has a good but not insane job (the inheritance was able to pay off his loans, our mortgage etc).  My job is much more flexible so I'm the default parent, which is totally fine - but he more than pulls his weight.

Do women (or men who stay home) justify this by saying they had to deal with pregnancy etc?  Or that the kids might need something during the day?  Or that maintaining the household takes the whole day?  Or they relax without guilt and I'm the weird one?

Thoughts welcome.[/quote]

No, enjoy your ONE week off. BFD. Enjoy your inheritance too. 
Many fathers and mothers prioritize flexible decent-paying jobs over crappy clients, money-grub jobs. Family is important, so is running a household not as a disaster. 
Not sure why you feel guilty. You already are the default parent. You all probably take vacations.

I have summer Fridays off for the first time in my life of working in the private sector in NYC and WDC. Kids are in camp. Errands are to be had. So is relaxing. [/quote]

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